‘We can’t choose our family but we can choose our friends’. Isn’t that how the saying goes, or something close to that? I could argue that we can indeed choose our family, depending on how you want to define family, but that’s not the point of today’s post 😊 Rather, it’s about choosing our friends, our tribe.
Some friends need more from us than we do from them, and that’s ok. Our purpose here in life is not to just ‘get’ but to ‘give’ too. With some people in our lives, we’re going to give more of ourselves than we’re possibly ever going to get from them. But you know what? There are other people in our lives who are going to give us more than we give in return.
Can you identify those in your circle who fit either description? I’m betting there is a mix!
We need both types. Those who help us become better and stronger versions of ourselves, build us up, at times hold us up when we need it, support us, and kick ass when we need that too! But the great thing is, we also get a chance to BE that type of person for others! And they in turn become that for others. It kind of reminds me of ripples in a pond. Perception can be a funny thing. Up close, it might seem like some friendships are more one-sided, but in the overall picture, the balance is perfect.
As long as your chosen friendships are nurturing and good for you, the amount of give and take does not need to be equal. But they do, or should be a source of joy and love on both sides.
Getting back to the point of today’s post, when choosing our friends, or our tribe, those we spend the most time with, we want to choose people who inspire us, encourage us, and help us become more of who we are. This other saying, ‘you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with’ is so true! Spend it with the do-er’s and thinkers and you’ll be one too; spend it with the complainers and nay-sayers and that’s who you’ll become.
So, on your journey of creating your most awesome life, know what kind of person you want to be, and choose who you spend most of your time with accordingly. Be mindful of your tribe.
I can guarantee that this one thing can change your life dramatically!