With the holidays winding down and normal life just around the corner, this is the time to start thinking of all the new things you want to try, and it’s time to firm up your New Year’s Resolutions!
New Year, new you!!
But first, let me ask you…. if you’ve consistently made New Year’s Resolutions in the past, how successful were you at keeping them?
If you’re like most people, you stay on top of your goals for the first couple weeks, maybe even the first month, and then regular life settles back in and you let things slip a little – until they’ve slipped completely away.
I’ve been there, too many times!
So, before you declare your new Resolutions this New Year’s Day, read on for some tips to help set yourself up for success this time.
Don’t make any New Year’s Resolutions.
Seriously! Don’t make any, and definitely don’t make it official by calling it such!
Before deciding on any goals you do want to set, get real on why. Why do you want to make this change, or reach this goal? Why does it matter to you?
Once you know why, write it down, get it all out…. all the reasons why it matters, what’s really involved. What is it going to take, realistically, to reach that goal? A great way to do this is with a mind map.
Now that you have a plan, get out your calendar, or whatever tool you use to plan your time, enter the steps you’re going to take and the actions you’re going to do for the next four months. You’re serious about this, right? So, make this commitment to yourself for the next four months. Yes, four months. By the end of four months, not only should you be fairly entrenched in your plan and therefore accustomed to it, you’ll also be seeing significant progress, which will motivate you to keep going.
Don’t tell anyone anything other than what you have to. For example, if it’s your goal to get in shape (a highly popular one!), you’ve made a realistic and great plan, and entered the dates and what you’re going to do into your planner; if you need a workout buddy, then just ask someone to work out with you, or go jogging with you…whatever steps you’ve put in your calendar.
Don’t talk it up as your big New Year’s Resolution. Just ask someone to join you. After the third or fourth time you’ve asked, they may question if you’ve made it your Resolution to get in shape. Just answer honestly – you’ve set some personal goals for yourself and you’re making them happen! Do not utter the words ‘New’ or ‘Year’s’ or ‘Resolution’!
The whole point is to take the pressure off yourself. We make promises to ourselves and set goals throughout the year, and January 1 should be no different than any other day.
If something means that much to you, and you need a big start date like the first day of a new year, then by all means start on January 1.
But don’t get hijacked by the date, and don’t let slip-ups or delays derail you permanently from reaching your goal.
There are 364 days left, followed by another 365. Keep going.
Wishing you an amazing 2019, filled with big scary goals that you stick with and conquer, regardless of how long it takes you!
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