A while back I was at a meeting and the conversation around the table was about how we handle ourselves in times of stress.
I remember a few people saying that they wished they could handle some situations better than they do, and that they were constantly trying to be better at it. And a few people spoke of how they have learned over time the best ways that work for them.
I spoke about how I have this picture in my head of who I am and what I’m like, but the me in reality is often quite different. I want to react in a certain way (calm, mature, fair), but often that’s not the way it happens. But I strive to be like the person I am in my mind.
That resonated with some of the people there, and I wonder if it resonates with any of you?
Do you have a mental picture of who you are, and what your personality is, that is perhaps a little, if not quite a bit, different than who you are in reality?
I think it’s something we all do, and likely without even realizing it!
So, I have a soul-searching, deep assignment for you.
Write down all of the characteristics you would like to describe who you are. Don’t worry just now about whether you’re actually that way or not, or whether you think you can be that way.
At this time, we’re only interested in getting clear on the characteristics you want to have, the way you want to be.
Not all characteristics we’re born with; many of them can be learned, and therefore developed. So don’t lose hope!
Can you come up with at least 15? 20?
If you’re struggling a little, here are some examples:
Always smiling – helpful – encouraging – curious – playful – energetic – studious – active – confident – soulful – up for anything – cautious – trustworthy – dependable – tenacious – empathetic.
These are just some ideas. Who do you want to be? How do you see yourself?
Once you have this list, place it somewhere so that you can see it every day.
Next, create a small vision board that correlates with this; pictures of people portraying these characteristics, pictures of these words or your own creative drawings of these words, etc. Make it meaningful to you.
It doesn’t have to be super fancy or big. Just a small board that reflects how you see yourself, or the person you want to be.
When you see it, it should make you smile, and it should resonate with you to your soul. Yes, it should go that deep.
After a while, you’ll become this person who you want to be.
All of those words you chose will actually describe who you are.
And that’s pretty cool!
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