You’re out with a group of your friends and you’re having a really good time. There’s laughter, good conversation and you’re feeling pretty good.
Then the conversation shifts and another of your close friends, who couldn’t make it, becomes the topic of discussion. But not in a good way. She’s being dissed and ridiculed – she’s lousy at her job, she’s overweight and should be ashamed of how she looks, she always makes the wrong choices in anything, and she sucks at relationships.
She is a really close friend, actually one of your best friends. Continue reading “They said what?”
When we’re caught up in all the things we’re trying to do, all the demands on our time, and all the pulls in different directions, it can be hard to take a moment to realize how blessed our lives are. I’ve been there many times.
Working 50+ hours a week, taking care of a home, being an attentive partner, taking care of the kids and their activities, and trying to help out in other areas, like helping out friends or working in committees…. instead of being in a state of gratitude, all we can think about is how stretched, stressed and exhausted we are. Continue reading “I’m grateful for….”
The first step to creating change is knowing what you want. Knowing exactly what you want. This is key…knowing exactly what you want. We get tied up in knowing what we don’t want, but that isn’t going to help create the change we seek.
It’s like this. If you decide to take a trip but haven’t picked a destination, then you’re wandering aimlessly. Without direction. And while you’ll end up somewhere, it may not be where you want to be!
The same applies to your life, your goals, your lifestyle…. your everything.
Without knowing what you’re working towards, moving towards, you’re going through life aimlessly. And that’s very likely resulting in an unfulfilling life. In your career, your relationships, your home, your social life, in you.
So, the first step – know what you want. Read here for more on how to do that.
Now that you know what you want, it’s time to Plan. How are you going to make it happen? Continue reading “Making a plan that works”
We can get so wrapped up in taking care of others. We put others’ wants and needs before our own, at work, at home, and in our communities.
Often at the expense of our own mental, emotional and physical health.
When was the last time you said no to someone, someone who needed something from you (even just your time because that most definitely counts!), because you needed that time to do something that was just for you, and no one else?
I’m actually really, really curious to know your answer!
It’s a beautiful characteristic to be there for others, to give unselfishly of ourselves. But if we’re not careful, we’re putting that ability at risk.
I read this great statement once that resonated with me and hit me like a bolt of lightning….. Continue reading “22 ways to practice self-care”
Remember all those times you wished for something different?
You wished your job was different, or your home was different, or you just wished your life in general was different. You didn’t know what you wanted, you only knew that what you had wasn’t working, and wasn’t what you wanted.
I remember those times. In fact, I still fall victim to that way of feeling now and then!
Wishing and feeling like that doesn’t get us where we want to be. Can you guess why?
If you’re thinking it’s because there wasn’t a plan in sight, that’s partially right.
But before that is one really huge step! Continue reading “Clarify – know what you want”
Do you feel like you’re being pulled in too many directions? Or have so much going on that you don’t know how you’re going to get all of it done, let alone done well?
Do you feel like other people have too many demands on you, and on your time?
How often do you put the wants and needs of other people ahead of yours? The things they want you to do, ahead of the things you want to do? Continue reading “Not enough time?”