The first step to creating change is knowing what you want. Knowing exactly what you want. This is key…knowing exactly what you want. We get tied up in knowing what we don’t want, but that isn’t going to help create the change we seek.
It’s like this. If you decide to take a trip but haven’t picked a destination, then you’re wandering aimlessly. Without direction. And while you’ll end up somewhere, it may not be where you want to be!
The same applies to your life, your goals, your lifestyle…. your everything.
Without knowing what you’re working towards, moving towards, you’re going through life aimlessly. And that’s very likely resulting in an unfulfilling life. In your career, your relationships, your home, your social life, in you.
So, the first step – know what you want. Read here for more on how to do that.
Now that you know what you want, it’s time to Plan. How are you going to make it happen? Continue reading “Making a plan that works”
We can get so wrapped up in taking care of others. We put others’ wants and needs before our own, at work, at home, and in our communities.
Often at the expense of our own mental, emotional and physical health.
When was the last time you said no to someone, someone who needed something from you (even just your time because that most definitely counts!), because you needed that time to do something that was just for you, and no one else?
I’m actually really, really curious to know your answer!
It’s a beautiful characteristic to be there for others, to give unselfishly of ourselves. But if we’re not careful, we’re putting that ability at risk.
I read this great statement once that resonated with me and hit me like a bolt of lightning….. Continue reading “22 ways to practice self-care”
Remember all those times you wished for something different?
You wished your job was different, or your home was different, or you just wished your life in general was different. You didn’t know what you wanted, you only knew that what you had wasn’t working, and wasn’t what you wanted.
I remember those times. In fact, I still fall victim to that way of feeling now and then!
Wishing and feeling like that doesn’t get us where we want to be. Can you guess why?
If you’re thinking it’s because there wasn’t a plan in sight, that’s partially right.
But before that is one really huge step! Continue reading “Clarify – know what you want”
Years ago, just before I joined the field of coaching, I was working full-time, taking night courses at my local college and online university courses, and volunteering in community groups. Life was busy – way too busy! The courses were geared towards my work in accounting (a career that wasn’t my passion), and although I loved the groups I was involved with, the amount of time I was spending in total was more than I could properly give. Not only was I suffering, so were my kids. We were never home anymore.
Changing careers to start coaching still meant schooling; I wanted to do this properly and be certified as a life coach. As much as I felt drawn to this field naturally, I knew there was still a lot to learn too. But it was different this time. Probably because this time I was learning something I was truly passionate about!
And something shifted – in me. My whole outlook on life was different. I continued with the job I had until I was in a position to leave, but the stress and toxicity of it didn’t have the same effect on me, it was a lot less.
I was moving in another direction and it felt so right!
Something else had to happen though, in order for all of this to work. Continue reading “In my community”
What is something you want to do but doubt you can?
Think about it for a moment and come up with one thing, the one thing you want to do the most but you don’t think you have what it takes to do it.
Maybe it’s act in community theatre or teach a special interest class. Or maybe it’s run a marathon or maybe you want to build your own house. What’s something you really want to do?
Write it down.
Now write down all the reasons why you think you can’t do it. Nothing fancy, just a bulleted list of all the reasons why, written under that thing you want to do most. Continue reading “I wish I could….”
I lost my way.
I took a detour that I thought was the right path, got caught up in the bright lights and whirlwind and then realized I was lost. I took the wrong turn. Or maybe it was the right turn at that point, but I stayed too long on that path.
After a long while I made my way back to the right path. Was it starting over? I don’t think so. Continue reading “I lost my way”