Fear. Change. Fear of change.
They go hand in hand.
Pretty much anytime I talk about fear, it isn’t the type of fear we feel when we’re in a dangerous situation, or our life or health is affected.
The only type of fear I will or have talked about is the type that holds us back from doing more, of becoming more – of stepping outside of our comfort zones.
The fear of changing.
Whether that be our current situation, our current predicament, or our current thinking and our mindset.
Think back to a time when you were at a point where you had to make a decision, one where to stay the course wasn’t a situation you liked, but to change it created a lot of anxiety within you.
You were scared to make that choice. Scared to change your situation. Even though the situation you were in wasn’t a place you wanted to be, at least you knew it.
Changing means going into the unknown.
And that’s what the fear is all about.
About the unknown.
Go back again to that time when you were faced with making a decision. You made it, you left behind what you didn’t like but yet you knew, and you forged a new comfort zone, a new known.
Change is good for us. It helps up grow, and to become more.
It helps us to improve our lives and often the lives of others we care about.
So how can we be more open to change?
How can we look forward to change instead of dreading it?
Can it be as easy as Tony Robbins suggests, when he says ‘stop being afraid of what could go wrong, and start being excited for what could go right”?
That’s a good approach, and definitely a good starting point!
Here are a few other ideas to help support that one:
Talk it through with a trusted friend and explore all possible outcomes.
Deliberate on those possible outcomes and determine which ones are actually more likely to happen.
For any negative outcomes, what could be done to flip it around or address it?
For the positive outcomes, what could be done to ensure it happens, or makes it more likely?
Adopt a curious mindset, especially if you’re prone to overthinking.
Identify the worst possible outcome and have a plan in place to address it.
Look at success stories of others who have faced this similar change.
Focus on what could go right, and the positive outcomes.
Find what helps you to be excited about change, and make it work for you.
If you’re reading this, I’m betting you want to create a better life, a better you. There’s so much more in life that you want.
And that means change.
So, embrace it, welcome it. Look for it.
And become part of it.
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