When it comes to your space and time, are you mindful of what and who you let in?
Especially as you’re going to be making a lot of changes over the next while. To stay on track, and on top of everything, you need to be mindful of how your energy is being used and replenished.
This is where setting boundaries that are right for you is vital.
Setting boundaries can be simply protecting your available time by mindfully choosing to spend it on something that is important to you, rather than on something that’s for someone else’s benefit.
For example, committing an evening after work for taking those classes you want that will help in your career goal, instead of going to an event a colleague has asked you to attend.
Maybe it’s committing to hitting the gym twice a week to reach your health goals instead of working late every night.
Setting boundaries on your available time is to decide what’s important to you and choosing to protect that time.
Setting boundaries may also be determining what energy you need in your life, and just as importantly, what energy you don’t need in your life.
If you’re working through something substantial, the last thing you need is someone else’s drama. (Especially if they are the type of person who seems to always be neck deep in drama!) Making yourself less available may be a boundary that needs to be set.
If you have family members or old friends who may not be comfortable with the changes and personal growth you’re doing, you may want to limit their influence and their appearance in your life.
This doesn’t mean cut them out of your life completely. The changes and growth they see might make them feel afraid that the old you is disappearing. Or it may make them feel like they are being left behind. As you grow and create the life you want, these people will settle into their roles in your life as they fit best.
Setting healthy boundaries is about knowing what you want in your life and what you don’t want in your life; and not feeling guilty when you limit the latter.
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